Among the many quirky aphorisms attributed to the late Yogi Berra is this observation about baseball: “Ninety percent of this game is half mental.”
This wacky piece of truth goes way beyond baseball–or sports for that matter. Most of our actions and achievements may be physically tangible, but they have their source in our hidden places–not only in our minds, but in our spiritual and emotional centers as well. Every great battle we win is first fought in our inner world.
If you’re like most people, you’re more likely to notice a change in your physical strength than a weakness in your inner life–even if that internal weakness is responsible for most of the problems that plague you. And if you’re like most of the people who come to me to explore coaching, you’re far more bothered by a disruption in your external world than by the need for growth that may have caused that disruption in the first place. Most people don’t put a lot of effort into conditioning their internal muscles until a problem in their inner life spills over and creates collateral damage in their circumstances.
But physical strength, brute force, and even finesse won’t get us far in the kind of life most of us want to live, if we’re not internally strong. And often, when something in our external world isn’t working as we want it to, there’s a corresponding problem in our inner world–either caused by the external issue or the true source of the problem.
This is one of the things I love most about being a coach. I get to help influencers get clear on their calling and thrive in times of transition so they can see clearly, lead boldly, live true, and fully engage in life with guiding purpose. I don’t think it’s possible to build a sustainable and fulfilling life full of clarity and purpose, bold and effective leadership, and truth unless that life is built from the inside out.
So what is inner strength? The way I see it, it’s based on understanding and building our fortitude in 7 key areas:
Alignment–You live with integrity and authenticity, your way of life reflects your core values, and the things you do generally flow out of who you are rather than what you believe the world wants from you.
Spiritual Order–You are in right and peaceful relationship with God, and your lifestyle reflects the tenets of your faith, guided by firm convictions rather than the tides of culture.
Health Plan–You care for your physical, mental, and emotional health. You practice self-care, graciously allow others to care for you, and receive medical care as you need it.
Discomfort Zone–You can fully experience sorrow and brokenness as well as joy and happiness, and you are comfortable allowing others to feel what they feel. You can live with pain and imperfection, and you can acknowledge your desires without demanding that they be satisfied.
Life on Purpose–You know why you’re here, your daily life has meaning and purpose, and you are intentional about the way you live.
Self-Ownership–You understand who you are and the impact you have on the world. You take responsibility for yourself and accept the consequences of your behavior.
Space for Grace–You consistently enforce your personal boundaries, and you can say no without feeling guilty. You recognize that other people belong to God, and you are happy to let them be who they are, without trying to change them.
I’m passionate about helping people build their inner strength–and see results in their external world–and I’m excited to share something I’ve been working on for a while. It’s my new inner strength assessment, designed to help you get a picture of your own internal strength and to show you which areas of your inner strength are in need of fortification.
This is a free resource, so if you want it, just enter your name and email address below, and you’ll receive it by email in a matter of moments.
Of course, once you discover what this assessment reveals, I would love to hear from you and potentially work with you as your coach. But if you’re not interested in coaching, I hope you’ll use this download and act on what you learn. Challenge yourself, find some support, pray for the courage to grow. Everything great that you have to contribute to the world will start in your inner world. Make it strong!
© 2016 Amy Simpson.