Stressed-Out Young People Need to Hear Your Stories

A few years ago, a study revealed the youngest generations of adults in America are also the most stressed. In one sense, this is no big surprise, given the economic and social factors influencing quality of life and near-future prospects for Millennials—adults ages 13 to 35—and for Gen Xers, whose scores are virtually tied with those of their younger counterparts.

In September 2016, the unemployment rate for Millennials was 12.7 percent. This compares to 5 percent overall. And among employed Millennials, many are underemployed, working jobs that don’t make full use of their college degrees, making it hard to pay off student debt.

On the other hand, in general, Millennials carry far less responsibility for others compared with adults in mid-life, who are more likely carrying mortgages, raising kids and putting them through college, and managing mature careers. And those who are well into the second half of life often find themselves caring for aging parents and facing their own health issues as they age. Older adults have plenty of reasons to stress out.

So is there something more behind all the stress on younger adults?

Definitely.

Exacerbating the challenges in their external circumstances, younger adults lack the internal fortitude that comes from experience. It’s not their fault—they simply haven’t been through as many trials as older generations. They don’t have as many triumphs they can point back to and use to boost their confidence for what they’re facing in the present. They don’t have the cache of personal stories—or the scars—to remind themselves they have what it takes to walk through life’s challenges.

Such experiences come over time. According to the American Psychological Association, as we age, we get better at handling stress. “There really is something to ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger,'” says one psychiatrist. We all know there’s no substitute for the school of hard knocks.

But while our own experiences are the best teachers, other people’s stories can be powerful as well. Seasoned adults aren’t the only ones who can benefit from their experiences—they can bring hope and assurance to the people who are coming up behind.

But in our society, intergenerational connections are weak. And stories from the seasoned set are lost amid our cultural noise, which venerates the loud and the youthful. Perhaps this is another reason for the high stress level among younger adults. Most of the stories they hear are from people with less, not more, real life experience.

When older adults tell their stories of survival and overcoming hardships, they inspire hope in younger people. They bring a sense of calm when they point out that history repeats itself—most of our current challenges are not new. They help young people picture themselves thriving too. But in our segmented society, which glorifies and magnifies the voices of the young, where will we hear such stories?

The church is one place where generations often find themselves in the same building, and where we can encourage storytelling. Sharing stories benefits not only those whose voices are often ignored, but also the ones who listen.

Such storytelling also brings glory to God. We should follow the example of our ancient forebears in faith, who handed down their stories carefully and intentionally, giving credit where credit was due: “I will teach you hidden lessons from our past—stories we have heard and known, stories our ancestors handed down to us. We will not hide these truths from our children; we will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the Lord, about his power and his mighty wonders…So each generation should set its hope anew on God, not forgetting his glorious miracles and obeying his commands” (Psalm 78:2-7).

Economic recession? High unemployment? Global tension? Acts of terror? Everyone over 40 has seen them before, remembers them well, and has lived to tell about them. Senseless violence, protracted wars, political standoffs, collapsing institutions, rampant corruption and immorality? Everyone over 50 has walked through all that and much more. We need to hear those stories.

Through mentoring relationships, small groups, and before your congregations, please share your stories. The rest of us need the hope we can find in your eyewitness accounts of God’s faithfulness and grace.

 

This article first appeared in Today’s Christian Woman.

6 Comments
  1. Pat Franklin says:

    Our congregation has during its Sunday worship service a segment called “Where have you seen God? What is God saying to you?” (preferably in the last week or two). This is an inspiring time when people briefly tell their stories–from children to older adults share where they’ve seen God at work. We still need longer stories from those who’ve “walked through deep waters”, but these help us all connect and encourage us.

  2. Sam Rozolem says:

    Amem, thanks for posting it.

  3. Des says:

    I’m 24 I went into Fresh Hope when I was 18 or 19 for the first time. I was the youngest and had self harm scars, bruises, and cuts all over my arms. I didn’t care about anything or myself. I’ve changed a lot. I’ve been through a lot since I’ve been there, but I do find myself struggling a lot lately. I have people who look up to me and I tell them my story and to trust in the Lord. I feel as a liar for somedays im completely hopeless.

    • Amy says:

      Des, it’s great to hear that you’ve come so far. I’ve glad you’ve had the wonderful experience of inspiring others with your story. Please know that this doesn’t make you responsible to pretend things are fine when they aren’t. The fact that you know what it is like to feel hopeless and you have survived such pain is inspiring to others; there’s no reason to pretend you never feel that way anymore. I encourage you to care for yourself, seek help and treatment if necessary, and set an example for others who may be looking to you.

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